Do you enjoy the holidays? The fruitful amount of sweets and yummy gum drops, delicious turkey and creamy mash potatoes smothered in home made gravy or, perhaps your favourite thing about Christmas is the families coming together, the Aunts and Uncles that you haven’t seen in ages or the faces of the children when they open their gifts from Santa?
Or perhaps under all of those butterflies and rainbows are you secretly wishing for Christmas to be over? Has the rat race or traffic finally gotten to you? The shopping frenzy has finally been exhausted? The constant train of people that you have to see or the lack of sleep that has now forced you to believe that this well never end?
If you are one of those people who are just trying to survive the holidays, here are a few tips that I think could help you:
- It’s okay to ask for a little help
Holidays are often a time when people attempt to take on too much, do too much on their own. It’s okay to ask for help from family and friends. Whether it be for decorating, shopping, cooking, or a shoulder to lean on, ask. Often people are more than happy to lend a hand.
- Take control
It’s unfortunate, but often extended family is one of the biggest contributors to holiday stress. It can feel like being pulled in a hundred different directions at once and trying to meet everyone’s expectations can be extremely stressful. The only way to stop this is to take control. The choices of which relatives to visit and which events to attend are individual choices, and people shouldn’t feel obligated to do everything.
- It’s okay to say ‘No’
This is the time of year were everyone needs a helping hand planning a party or organizing a dinner. There’s no need to be rude, but it’s okay to say ‘no’. Be careful not overload yourself and stretch yourself out too thin.
- Remember to take care of yourself
If you’re feeling blue, pamper yourself, do what feels good, what you want to do. Try to take a walk, spend time alone if that’s what you want. Remember, this is your holiday too and you can be there for yourself just like you try to be for everyone else.
- Create your own unique holiday rituals
Developing traditions to express your love and appreciation is a powerful way to celebrate your marriage or relationship throughout the holiday season. Old traditions are great, but as families grow it’s time to welcome in some new traditions. Get creative and have fun with it.
I hope you all have a very Merry Holiday Season and Happy New Year!